Prince Harry is basically a good bloke who served and loves his country.Don't destroy him!

A million words have been written about Harry and Meghan since their extraordinary statement last Wednesday that they wanted to be partially out of the Royal Family and lead their own life, financially independent. A lot of the stuff about them is probably misplaced or wrong, whispered by courtier "sources" who have their own prejudices and who are saying what they think it all means without actually knowing fully what it all means. So, from the million words, there are tales of rifts between William and Harry, non-speaking purdah between Meghan and Kate, ultimatums from Meghan to Harry - me or your country - bitterness, hatred, despair, misery, backbiting and Buckingham Palace brick-wall protocol. Some of it is no doubt true and some of it may be embellished by those allegedly in-the-know and other parts may be influenced by a singular prejudice against Meghan herself. Not because she is "black" I don't think - anyway she is mixed race and doesn't even look like a "woman of colour" as she herself puts it. There may be a hint of racism buried somewhere in all the reports but I really don't believe the media in this country are racist. On the contrary I reckon the press in general thought it was bloody amazing and rather wonderful that Harry married a woman whose mother is black and father white. Brilliant for Harry, brilliant for the Royal Family and brilliant for all of us. The reaction from the British press was mightily refreshing, especially at the time of the engagement and wedding. So, racism? No. What got to the media was her attitude towards them and her new role. She didn't play ball with things like having her picture taken with her baby when she emerged from hospital, like good old Kate did. And she refused to allow the press to know about the christening and who the godparents were. Well there are two issues here. She and Harry have a right to do things differently and the press is not God. They shouldn't expect everything to go the way they want it to go. But actually Harry and Meghan are royals, not Hollywood stars. They do have a duty to play ball like William and Kate, not because their lives should be subject to the wishes of the press but because the British people and fans of the monarchy around the world wanted to see the new baby. What is so difficult about posing for pictures for ten minutes? It keeps everyone and I mean everyone in the country happy and newspapers would have been full of joyous pictures and nice headlines. All lovey dovey. There would not have been a word spoken against Meghan. As a new member of the Royal Family that's what she should have done. Instead of which, she and Harry went on to further antagonise the press until the prince exploded in anger and angst and made his statement in Africa announcing legal action against the Mail on Sunday but really against all reporters and photographers. From then on there was no turning back. Now whatever happens, Meghan will get the blame because she has given the impression of wanting things her own way, never mind the impact it is going to have on her husband who remains sixth in line to the throne and is devoted to the Queen, his grandmother, and to his country. Does he really want to live half his life in Canada or Los Angeles away from all those whom he loves back in Blighty? Of course he loves Meghan and Archie and desperately wants to be a great husband and father and to be happy. But the way things are going, whatever the Queen and Prince Charles come up with at Sandringham today, this whole episode is going to be worse for Harry than for Meghan. She has all her friends and mother in Canada. It would be truly shocking if in his search for happiness, Harry who served valiantly for his country in Afghanistan, becomes a sad, set-apart figure in exile. Like the late Duke of Windsor.